I’d appreciate if you read and share both, as between them they sum up our struggle pretty well.
However, let’s see if I can sum things up: my daughter Dessie has chronic kidney disease, currently at stage 4. Sometime, hopefully soon, she will need/get a donated kidney transplanted. That will take us over to Seattle for three to four months, basically moving us there for the duration.
I divorced my abusive ex about four years ago, taking on the marital debt up speed the divorce.
I consolidated it, but just trying to staying alive as a family keeps piling up debt, pretty consistently putting us in the negative each month, because there’s more bills than money, and no way to be rid of bills without more money than we have. I’m trying. It kills me to keep asking for help. But I’ve learned if you don’t ask, people won’t help; staying silent assumes you’re fine.
We are living in a house owned by my ex in laws, and there’ve repeated threats to evict us. I’d love to move, but that’s impossible without money. I badly want to get us into a place where neither my ex nor his family have power over us.
In about early May 2017, my daughter revealed to me that her father molested her, while we were still married., when she was about three or four. I reported this to CPS and the police., but ultimately nothing came of it, because by that time no physical evidence remained.
I’m trying to keep my family safe, and well. It’s a constant and continuing struggle. We currently have an old but good working car; in the past few months, though, we’ve had tires blow out, and our car repossessed. The house has issues; every time I think we’ve tackled the last plumbing issue, a new one comes up. (Right now that’s the bathroom sink.). Getting them fixed means dealing with my ex mother in law or ex father in law. They like to use such things as excuses to interfere in our lives. The house’s poor electrical setup regularly kills our lightbulbs.
Remember, YouCaring will be fully merged with GoFundMe by July 31st 2018, so there’s not much longer to use it if it’s your preferred donating platform.
June is Dessie and Max’s birthday month! They turn ten this year.
They curate their own lists for the most part, and have some expensive desires, I know. Don’t feel obliged at all; I’m just putting this out there in case someone wants to know. If you do want to get Dessie something, though, please also try to get Max something, however small. Currently her favorite color is teal (but blue will do), and his is red. Luggage is in both lists because we hope to go to Give Kids the World this year, after Thanksgiving, through Make-A-Wish.
I’m hoping that this June that we avoid disaster and overdrafts, but it tends to keep happening because there is more month than money.
Here is the information for possible kidney donors: Donors need to between 21-45, in reasonably good health, and O+ blood type. If this is something you’re interested, please contact the University of Washington’s living donor program at 206-598-3627, and mention you’re interested in donating to Dessie McAdams. I am not sure what constitutes “reasonably good health” in this case, though I think most people with chronic illnesses don’t qualify and anyone immmuno-compromised. Best to contact UW and ask.
We do have a possible living donor right now, and are waiting on the process, which may take months. I am hoping, however, that one way or the other Dessie will receive a new kidney in the next 12 months.
Please help us get out of this living situation.
If it helps, I have other options:
PayPal.me/kerryren
Venmo@KerryRen
CashApp $KerryRen
Circle kerryren@yahoo.com
June looks likes it’s going to be a particularly hard month, and worse from here on out, financially, when it was already pretty bad.
The Suffering continues.
And intensifies.
Steadily getting closer to positive, thanks to everyone’s help!
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