honestly like. the sheer lack of resources available to lgbt young people about abusive relationships is killing us and abuse educators need to wake the fuck up and start providing specific, targeted resources for people in gay relationships.
i mean, i’ve had friends who are struggling in dysfunctional relationships say things to me like, “i don’t understand why we can’t figure out how to communicate, like, we’re both women” and i’ve had friends who are trapped in actively abusive relationships but are unable to think of their experiences as abuse because virtually all the literature on abuse is about the specific ways in which men threaten and terrorize women.
i think because so many of us go through childhoods and early heterosexual relationships that are so traumatizing and lonely, it’s easy to believe that gay love is this kind of healing panacea, somehow inherently more pure and stable than straight love. and like. while unquestionably the vast majority of domestic abuse is carried out by men against women, gay relationships are not magic. they are made up of flawed people, and they can become dysfunctional, and people can be vulnerable to abuse within them. and we need to stop pretending otherwise and start figuring out how to protect each other.
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